Health and Wellbeing

When did you last consider your sexual health?

Hi there beautiful ones 🙂

I am especially careful in managing my sexual health, which is an occupational health and safety matter for me!

I have a full STI screening at a maximum time limit of three months (as per Victorian law) – and often as soon as every two months. This ensures my safety and the safety of gentlemen that I entertain. I INSIST on practices that are as safe as possible. (If you ask me for unsafe practices, our time together will be immediately concluded, with no refund provided).

My question to you is – how long is it since you checked your own sexual health?

If you have more than one sexual partner, then you SHOULD be checking your sexual health. If you’re not using condoms, you’re not only putting yourself at risk, you’re putting your partners at risk – and their partners, and their partners – and so on.

The Royal College of General Practitioners (Australia) has been tracking the rise of syphilis infection in Australia. Just like COVID, STI’s such as syphilis seem to LOVE Melbourne for some reason ):

Syphilis infections have increased in Melbourne triple fold since 2014 to the beginning of 2020 ( – and that was pre-COVID; the sneaky booty call was at it’s highest during lockdown (don’t pretend you didn’t, if my message requests were any indication, Melbourne was HORNY in lockdown!) – this is extremely concerning. The EASIEST, FREE place to have a full STI check is at Melbourne Sexual Health Clinic at 580 Swanston St. Carlton – visit their website here to find out how to book an appointment, along with outreach GP’s throughout the Metro area who provide the same service as MSHC. Your GP can also offer STI checks.

As indicated here syphilis often goes untreated – if caught early, treatment can be very effective, however, if left untreated, can cause chronic brain and heart disease.

Historically, figures as diverse as John Batman (yes – the guy that founded Melbourne!) and artist Henri de Toulouse Lautrec (famous not only for his art but his involvement in the culture of the Paris suburb of Montmatre during the Belle Époque from the late 1800’s – WW1, including the creation of the original promotional posters for the Moulin Rouge), died of Neurosyphylis – a bacterial infection of the brain/brain stem, where syphilis had not been diagnosed and treated. It literally sent people “insane”, using historical terms (now we would describe the symptoms to be similar to dementia), as well as causing terrible physical disfigurement, blisters etc. Syphilis was previously treated with mercury, which can cause neurological and behavioural disorders, such as tremors, emotional instability, insomnia, memory loss, neuromuscular changes and headaches. It can also harm the kidneys and thyroid. High exposures have also led to deaths.

Thank goodness for the discovery of penicillin!

Of course, syphilis is not the only STI that can be passed between sexual partners – chlamydia, gonorrhoea, trichomoniasis, HPV, HIV, herpes and pubic lice (crabs) are the most common STI’s that are tested for regularly. The symptoms can range from unpleasant discharge, to sores/warts (which can be extremely painful) to infertility – and in the case of HPV, possible cancer of the cervix (Gardisil is now administered to young women to reduce the risk of cancer of the cervix).

Remember, there is NO cure for HPV, HIV and herpes. These can all be managed medically – but as we have always been taught, prevention is better than cure!

While in lockdown, it’s a GREAT time to organise a blood test. A simple Telehealth appointment with your GP or contacting MSHC via their website info above (or one of their outreach clinics) to make an appointment to attend when it’s safe to do so. A simple blood test could mean the difference between quick treatment and ongoing pain/treatment.

Look after YOU and those that are important to you <3


Phoebe xoxo

Chronic illness, surgery, recovery and body acceptance

So, my lovelies – I have always been honest about being a curvy size 12. I have a tummy, which I’ve artfully hidden in photos – until now. I also have a large scar.

The reason for my tummy is not because I’m lazy (well, I am) or I eat all the food (well, I do) – even when I was a size 8, I had a tummy… because of my scar. I wear that scar proudly, because I wouldn’t be earth side without it.

When I was a size 8 – after major abdominal surgery. Twice. I suffer from Crohn’s disease (IBD – inflammatory bowel disease) – I have been sick since I was 14, was diagnosed at 21, have had countless procedures and two major surgeries – at my sickest, I was 45kgs (sorry – the next image is gross, but a necessary part of this message).

Apart from the surgery, Crohn’s has affected my life enormously. Luckily I’ve been well for a while, but when I’m sick it’s debilitating and extremely painful – studies rank IBD as the fourth most painful disease in the world. Not to mention poop!

It took me YEARS to come to terms with my scar. No exercise will ever lead to a six pack as every muscle group in my stomach has been cut through multiple times. So, I have a tummy – but does that mean I don’t feel incredibly sexy? NOT A CHANCE!

Learning to love my body just the way it is, to overcome poor body image AND to share myself as a companion with a significant, permanent scar is the most empowering thing I have ever done. If this assists even one person to positively accept their body, I’ll be thrilled.


Your Phoebe Mae xoxo